Writing my Valentine's Day cards. Photo credit: Nisha K. Kulkarni
Writing my Valentine’s Day cards. Photo credit: Nisha K. Kulkarni

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, and there are so many stories and tips about how to “survive” it.

I don’t understand that.

But then again, I didn’t grow up with the “Valentine’s Day is only for lovahs” mentality that afflicts a lot of people, regardless of whether or not they’re in a romantic relationship.

We all love, so everyone is a lover: that’s what I learned from my mom at a young age.

My mom is an extraordinary soul. For as long as I can remember — from being a shy toddler until I met my hubby  — she was my Valentine.

And even after I married, she has made the day super special.

You see, she always made it feel inclusive.

She just wants me to know how much I’m loved. And I feel the same way about her — and everyone else who’s near and dear to my heart too.

That’s why I never really felt that Valentine’s Day belongs only to couples; it belongs to everyone.

Even when I was single (which I was for most of my life), I had to fake indignation at the holiday.

I even tried to host an anti-Valentine’s Day bash one year during a snowstorm.

The irony is that even that event was all about love. My best friends — soul sisters, really — were with me, and I remember having so much fun, despite the bad weather and near-empty bar.

We all have people in our lives we love: mothers, fathers, brothers, sisters, uncles, aunts, cousins, grandmas, grandpas, husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, best friends, old friends, new friends.

And, of course, yourself.

All these people — and you — make up the love in your life, so how can a day that’s all about love belong only to a select few?

If you find you’re throwing yourself a pity party with a box of truffles (yum!) on Saturday, think of just one person — it can be absolutely anyone — whom you love.

I promise you that you won’t be able to stop at one person; you’ll think of all the people who flood you with that magical feeling.

It doesn’t matter how many people are on your list.

What matters is how much love you share.

As you think of your dear ones, you’ll remember moments when that love was amplified.

Now, pick up the phone and just call or text that person or those people whom you love.

That warmth you feel spreading across your chest? That’s what Valentine’s Day is all about.

It’s not all grand gestures, expensive gifts and dinner dates.

It’s about those moments that inspire that big feeling so that you can’t help but smile big and goofy-like.

So I wish you a very Happy Valentine’s Day. I hope that you realize that this day is for everyone.

Because you are a lover amongst lovers. 

And I hope that love continues to reign in your life.


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